Helping Your Children Through Divorce: Books and Resources for Austin Families

Your children didn’t ask for this divorce, but they’re living through it too. As a parent going through divorce in Austin, you’re probably wondering how to help them understand what’s happening and feel secure during this time of change.

The right books can give you and your children words for feelings they can’t express. They can also show your kids they’re not alone - other families go through this too, and it’s possible to be okay on the other side.

Books for Young Children (Ages 3-7)

Dinosaurs Divorce by Laurene Krasny Brown and Marc Brown

This classic helps little ones understand divorce basics without scary details. The dinosaur characters make it less threatening, and it covers practical questions like “Where will I live?” and “Is it my fault?” Perfect for your first conversations about family changes.

It’s Not Your Fault, Koko Bear by Vicki Lansky

Koko Bear feels confused when her parents divorce - just like your child might. This book gently explains that kids don’t cause divorces and that both parents still love them. Good for bedtime reading when your child needs extra reassurance.

Two Homes by Claire Masurel

Shows a young boy who has “two homes, two bedrooms, two front doors” but feels loved in both places. Simple illustrations help children picture what their new life might look like.

Books for Elementary Age (Ages 8-12)

The Divorce Express by Paula Danziger

Follows a girl traveling between her parents’ homes and making new friends who understand her situation. Helps older kids see they can adapt and still have fun, even when family life changes.

Mom’s House, Dad’s House for Kids by Isolina Ricci

Practical guide that helps children understand custody schedules, holidays, and dealing with different rules at different houses. Good for kids who like to understand exactly how things will work.

Books for Teenagers

Caught in the Middle by Jane B. Brooks

Addresses the complex emotions teenagers face during divorce, including anger, loyalty conflicts, and worry about the future. Validates their feelings while offering coping strategies.

How to Talk to Your Children About Divorce

Start with the basics they need to know:

• Mom and Dad decided we can’t live together anymore
• We both love you very much - that will never change
• This is not your fault. Nothing you did caused this
• You will always have a home and be taken care of

Answer their questions honestly but age-appropriately:

• Young children: Simple, concrete answers about where they’ll live and when they’ll see each parent
• Older children: More detail about logistics, but avoid adult problems like money or dating
• Teenagers: Frank discussions about how this affects their future, college plans, and family traditions

Don’t:

• Blame the other parent or share adult details
• Ask children to choose sides or carry messages
• Promise things you can’t control (“We might get back together”)
• Use children as emotional support

Local Austin Resources for Children

Austin Child Guidance Center

Professional counseling specifically for children dealing with divorce and family changes. They understand the unique pressures kids face and can provide individual or family therapy.

Families Helping Families of Greater Austin

Support groups for children and families going through divorce. Sometimes kids just need to talk to other kids who get it.

Austin ISD Student Support Services

If your children attend AISD schools, counselors can provide additional support during school hours. Don’t hesitate to let their school know what’s happening at home.

Travis County Children’s Court Services

Offers the “Kids in the Middle” program - a court-ordered class that helps children ages 6-17 cope with their parents’ divorce.

When Professional Help Makes Sense

Consider counseling if your child:

• Has significant behavior changes at home or school
• Shows signs of depression or anxiety
• Blames themselves for the divorce
• Acts out anger toward parents or siblings
• Has trouble sleeping or eating
• Regresses to earlier developmental stages

Most children adjust to divorce over time with love and support. But some need extra help processing their feelings, and that’s completely normal.

Supporting Your Children Long-Term

Create stability in small ways:

• Keep bedtime routines consistent
• Maintain connections with extended family and friends
• Continue favorite activities and traditions when possible
• Establish clear, fair rules at both houses

Take care of yourself too. Children pick up on your emotional state. When you’re managing your own stress and getting support, you’re better able to help them.

Remember: This is temporary. The intense emotions and adjustment period won’t last forever. Most children of divorce grow up to be healthy, resilient adults who form strong relationships.

Moving Forward as a Family

Divorce changes your family structure, but it doesn’t have to destroy your family bonds. With patience, honesty, and the right support, you can help your children not just survive this transition, but learn valuable skills about handling life’s challenges.

Every family’s situation is different. Some children need more support than others. Some adjust quickly while others take more time. Trust your instincts as a parent, and don’t hesitate to seek professional guidance when you need it.

Need help protecting your children’s interests during your divorce? As a board-certified family law specialist and mother, I understand how divorce affects the whole family. I can help you create custody arrangements that truly work for your children and guide you through child-focused solutions. Schedule your consultation today to discuss how we can prioritize your children’s well-being throughout this process.

Facing immediate concerns about your children? Don’t wait. Call (512) 270-7595 to discuss emergency custody measures or protective orders that put your children’s safety first.