How we work Essay · April 2026

Settlement is not a compromise. It's a discipline.

Four phases. One arc. How a family law practice gets pointed at resolution — and stays pointed there, even when court is necessary.

Law school didn'tprepare us forhow often theanswer is 'settle.'

Chapter 01 The philosophy

Nobody's family situation ever got better at the courthouse.

It's a simple sentence and an uncomfortable one. It's also, after 28 years and 1,500 families, the most honest summary we can give of what we've observed.

A courtroom is an excellent venue for determining liability. A judge, constrained by rules of evidence and the finite minutes of a docket, can decide who is at fault and how to allocate consequences. That is the work the courthouse was designed to do.

A courtroom is an indifferent venue for designing a parenting plan. It is a worse venue for reconciling two careers, three bank accounts, a house with a mortgage and a story, and a pair of children who need both parents to remain present in their lives. The courthouse is not equipped for the texture of that work. It wasn't built for it.

So our practice is built around keeping work out of the place that's not equipped to handle it. Not because we can't litigate — Cristi is Board Certified in Family Law, the State Bar credential that certifies trial depth, and we've tried cases in Travis, Williamson, and Hays counties for more than two decades.

We prefer resolution because it's better for families. We've watched what happens when families decide their own futures versus what happens when a judge decides for them, and the difference is not subtle. Settlement is the work of the parties. Litigation is the work of an institution. Over and over, the parties produce better outcomes than the institution does.

Resolution is the default. We go to court when the other side forces it. When we do, we prepare as though we always were.

Chapter 02 The process

Four phases. One arc. Resolution is the default.

A named process so you always know where you are in the matter — and what comes next. Most firms skip the first phase entirely and start billing on the third. That's the most expensive mistake in family law.

Phase 01

Clarify

Understand the situation before acting on it.

Most firms take the matter as presented — you walked in saying you wanted a divorce, they start working on a divorce. That's the moment that causes more money to be wasted and more poor outcomes than any other in family law.

Clarify is the first one to four weeks of any matter. We ask about the marriage, the finances, the children, the dynamics that don't show up on a balance sheet, the decisions you've already made, and the decisions you haven't let yourself make yet. We ask what "good" looks like to you. We ask what you're afraid of.

By the end of Clarify, we have a shared picture of your situation. Before we propose a path, we've earned the right to propose one.

Phase 02

Chart the path

Design the strategy that fits the situation — not the one that fits the firm.

There are three paths a family-law matter takes to resolution: collaborative, negotiated through counsel, or contested litigation. Each one has a cost profile, a timeline, a rhythm, and a set of conditions it works in. Mediation, in Texas, is almost always a session inside one of those paths — most often the move that gets a contested or negotiated case settled before trial — not a path of its own. Most firms have a preferred path and push every matter toward it. That's a hammer problem.

We chart the path with you. We walk through what each option would look like for your specific situation, what it would likely cost, how long it would take, what the trade-offs are. Then we recommend the one we think fits, and you decide.

The plan is written down. What we will do. What we won't do. What it will cost. What the timeline is. What could go wrong and how we would handle it if it did. Charting a path is a contract between us about what the work is.

Paths aren't permanent. When a collaborative process stops working, we can pivot to a negotiated track. When a negotiation stalls, we can call a mediation session or file. Rigidity kills matters; the plan is a starting direction, not a prison.

Phase 03

Resolve

Execute. Push toward settlement even when court is necessary.

Most of the work of a family-law matter happens here, in the execution of the chosen path. In collaborative, it's team meetings with neutral professionals — a financial neutral, a communications coach, sometimes a child specialist. In a negotiated divorce, it's attorney-to-attorney back-and-forth over terms, often punctuated by formal mediation sessions with a neutral attorney-mediator. In litigation, it's depositions, hearings, temporary orders, court-ordered mediation, and eventually trial preparation.

What does not change across paths: every matter we take is still being asked, in every meeting and every filing, "can this resolve?" The preparation itself is the push toward settlement. When the other side sees the case we would actually bring to trial, that usually changes what they are willing to agree to. This is why our trial preparation produces our best settlements.

When a matter does go to trial, 28 years of practice means we know the judges, the procedures, the local dockets, and the specific realities of Travis, Williamson, and Hays County family courts. We didn't get to this point by sitting at settlement tables.

Phase 04

Forward

The decree is the beginning of the next chapter, not the end of the old one.

Most firms stop when the judge signs the final order. That's the moment when the actual work of the new family structure begins — and it's a moment most people are left to navigate alone.

Forward is the first year after the decree. QDRO drafting for retirement division, property transfers, title changes, beneficiary updates, the mechanics of the first parenting schedule, tax-year handoffs, name change paperwork. The agreement you reached has to actually work in practice. Making sure it does is still our work.

We close the same way we opened: documents right, obligations clear, family oriented forward.

The discipline

"A courtroom can end a marriage. It cannot design what comes next."
— Our practice philosophy

Chapter 03 Practice

We use AI intentionally. Everything still goes through an attorney.

We use AI in every matter we take. Not to replace the work of an attorney — to make an attorney's work better. Faster drafting. Deeper case research. Earlier pattern recognition on how a situation is likely to unfold. More time spent on judgment, less on rote production.

Every document that leaves this office has been read and approved by a Board Certified attorney. Nothing goes out the door otherwise. That rule is absolute, non-negotiable, and independent of how the document was drafted. AI doesn't represent you. We do.

But AI is the most transformational technology any of us will see in our professional lifetimes. Attorneys who aren't using it are in one of two positions: they don't understand it, or they're protecting the billable hours it saves. Neither position helps the client.

Used honestly, AI does for family law what calculators did for tax prep and what CT scans did for medicine. It doesn't change what the work is. It changes what's possible in a given hour of the work. The client benefits in time, in cost, and in quality of attention.

Chapter 04 Credential context

Three credentials. One practice. An uncommon combination.

A wall of logos tells you nothing. What the certifications actually mean, and what the combination does for your matter.

Board Certified in Family Law

Texas Board of Legal Specialization

The credential the State Bar itself uses to distinguish depth of family-law expertise. It requires a minimum of five years in substantial family-law practice, peer review from attorneys and judges who have observed your work, a sustained record of handling substantive matters, and passing a comprehensive board examination.

Less than one percent of Texas attorneys hold it. In family law specifically, it's a signal of trial capability — you cannot earn this certification without a documented history of substantive court work.

Board Certified in Child Welfare Law

A rare second specialty

Child Welfare Law is the State Bar's certification for attorneys with depth in custody, CPS, family violence, adoption, termination, and complex parenting disputes. It is a separate examination and a separate body of case experience.

Holding both Family Law and Child Welfare Law certifications is uncommon — we have not identified another Austin family-law attorney with the combination. In practice, it means a wider field of vision when children are at the center of a matter. We see issues a Family Law–only practitioner may not be calibrated to catch.

Master Credentialed — Collaborative Divorce

Collaborative Divorce Texas

Collaborative practice has no formal board certification — the Master Credential is the highest distinction the specialty confers. It requires advanced interdisciplinary training, a sustained record of collaborative matters, and peer review by a board of experienced collaborative practitioners.

Cristi has been practicing collaborative since 2002, before most Texas family lawyers knew the word. She was Master Credentialed in 2017 — by which point she had already handled over 300 collaborative matters. She has continued to practice collaborative as the center of the firm ever since, and is among the most experienced collaborative divorce attorneys in Central Texas by case volume.

Collaborative isn't a soft alternative to divorce. It's a rigorous structured process with its own protocols, its own professional ethics, and its own failure modes. Depth at this scale is not the same as "also offers collaborative" on a services page.

Chapter 05 The exception

When we go to court — and why we're prepared when we do.

"Resolution is the default" is a commitment about posture, not an aversion to the courthouse. Here's what the exception looks like.

When we'll file first

The other side is hiding or dissipating assets, and timing matters.
There is a real safety issue for a child or spouse.
Deadlines are about to hurt you — temporary orders, possession schedules, asset protection windows.
The other side has lawyered up aggressively and is moving first.
A collaborative or negotiated process broke down for reasons that can't be repaired.

What trial preparation looks like

We prepare as if we are going to trial. We expect to. Then we work every day to resolve the matter short of trial — and the preparation itself is what produces the best settlement offers. When opposing counsel sees the case we would actually bring, that often changes what their client is willing to agree to.

When matters do go to trial, 28 years of practice in Travis, Williamson, and Hays County family courts means we know the judges, the procedural realities, the local dockets. We didn't get Board Certified in Family Law by sitting at settlement tables.

Cristi's Child Welfare Law certification is particularly load-bearing in contested custody matters. Complex parenting disputes, high-conflict dynamics, safety-adjacent situations — these are the matters where the wider field of vision matters most, and where court is sometimes the right tool.

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